Someone asked me : " Are you angry with anybody?"
As I was thinking about my reply, I suddenly realized something which I wanted to share with you.....
I replied : " I am not angry with anybody..... If there is someone with whom I am angry, its me and me alone....."
All the emotional feelings start because we expect something from others and we want others to fulfill our expectations..... When they are unable to fulfill our expectations we are either angry or sad..... While agony leads us no where..... anger may lead us to disastrous effects.....
Well, I believe the whole purpose of living is to be happy personally and successful professionally..... Though we don't realize that we are happy when we are , we definitely realize that we are unhappy when we are not happy..... The lamenting feeling that someone whom we love had not reached our expectations make us sad.....
Anger is one letter short of danger..... When we are angry, we don't realize what we speak or do..... We get angry because someone had not reached our expectations but what are we doing??? Shouting??? Is this what others expect from us??? While getting angry about someone not reaching our expectations we are unseeing there expectations on us.....
Looking back into the situation, when our mind is calm, we will realize that we are also to be equally blamed... The other person might be wrong, but does shouting at them solve any problem????
All these happen, just because we expect something from others... Is expecting something from others wrong???
Donno.... Think it out....
10 comments:
1) Expecting something is not wrong.
2) Only if u expect something , your loved one will come to know that u r expecting something.
3) Your loved one might have failed to fulfil ur expectation, but tat is an oppurtunity for him/her to know that u had such an expectation. and fulfil ur expectation the next time before even u expect it from them.
4) Never show ur anger when ur expectation is not fulfilled.. Be polite and explain that u expected such a thing.
5) First try to understand and then to be understood.
And thats wat i think about this jyo!!
Keep rockin!!!
Thank you Prashanth for leaving your opinion....
"Try to understand and then to be understood....."
This is really superb....
keep visiting....
bye...
hi jyothi... corretly what happened on 22 july...?sorry for asking u like this.. but one thing jyothi what u have missed i dont no..? think once that did u expree ur feelings to u loved one..? IF U not go and tell ur feeling .. tell Him r Her... then u can solve every thing..?i can tell u one example:i had love with one gay...he never used to undestand my feeling..one day i told him that leave me alone ples dont come into my life again...after that he missed me more..one day he call me and said sorry...that all my problem solved...one thing if realy loved one never leave u jyothi.. i they not having any feeling they will leave u...i think that u have got many calls from him r her...if i am correct they still love u..dont take mush period ..tell u r problem
Thank you Laxmi garu.....
I don't know what you understood from my article.... but i just wrote it like that.... NO incident or no reason is behind this....
ya... there is a person whom i respect a lot... and who thought me what life is... he is responsible for my thoughts to be in this direction...
i just wrote this to share my thoughts... nothing more...
worth givin a thought!
had it in mind previously
now tht u hav written on the topic i would like to place my view
i feel anger probably comes 4m the lack of self-fulfillment....inability to prove true to one's own expectations and den expecting others to do da job 4 us
happiness comes 4m contentment i.e. acceptin deficiencies n inabilities
Thank you Harsh...
You did leave a very valuable comment.... One for which i have to stop and think to understand what you actually meant....
I mean.... your right but not completely.... as you said in your blog.... everything has two sides to it.....
keep visiting....
jyothi....
hii jyo...
nice question.. "is expecting something from someone wrong???"
my answer for this would be "no"
cos wen u like someone n wen u feel someone as ur life then only u'l expect them to do something for which u'l feel happy...
But just expecting wil never solve ur problem...
u must let them know wat r u expecting from them... so tat they'l try to fulfill ur expectations...
Sudha...
Thank you so much for leaving your opinion dear.....
and very true Sudha.... We will expect something only from those whom we love more than anything else...
hmmm...... Thank you so much....
take care and keep visiting....
byeee.....
jyothi....
Hey jyothi..
That article was a thought provoking one..Firstly..I think..One should never be angry with oneself because whatever decision a person takes in his/her life is taken solely by him considering all the pros and cons of it.. So never blame or be harsh to yourself for the kinda decision u take and Believing in oneself is very important...
And regarding Expectations..i feel the whole world revolves around expectations!!
Expecting something from someone is not wrong but if it doesn't come from the other side then just stop..and think for a while..and Ask Yourself DID YOU LIVE UPTO THEIR EXPECTATIONS??Be true to urself..(And I believe Living upto oneself expectations is great..!!)If the answer is positive then i feel there is no wrong in confessing or stating it to the loved one what u expect because sometimes a little delay in confession takes away everything from us..So if u expect from someone or viceversa then think for a while and ask yourself and then move on and make a decision which u would never have to regret later...
I guess that was too big a comment..!!But..anyways..All the best!!Be happy!!
-Khushi
Thank you Khushi....
Thanks a lot for the comments.....
I really value your comment.... every point in your comment is something to always be remembered...
Thank you once again....
keep visiting...
bye..
jyothi
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